Our Story

Every Birth Mom is different, and each have their own story and personal feelings towards adoption. The two founders show just how different each birth mom can be. One will share her story and one can not. This is just the way it is, and unfortunately both options are not quiet as clear as they seem. Most of us, even though we may share some, can never share fully how we really feel. This might hamper our relationship (if we have one) with the adopptive parents or other things. As a mom, we may wish to brag about our children or show how proud we are of them from time to time, but this is not really possible. If you are a parent, I think you can identify with how that alone might burn inside you until the one day you can proclaim it freely.

Although we all have very different stories, backgrounds, and current views on adoption...we also have one thing in common that binds us together for a life. We all know what it is like to live a life like this. Check out the BirthMoms page for more.

Below is a little summary of one of the founder's stories. The other founder needs to remain "unknow" for the time being.

My Story:

One day my life changed, I started “liv­ing” once I real­ized God is in con­trol, not me. Even some­thing, hor­ri­ble at the time, can be turned around and used by Him. That year I was raped in my apt, sup­­pressed it and a preg­­nancy (temp amne­sia they call it), had a healthy baby girl, fell in love with her, and then placed her for adop­­tion with the best fam­ily ever. I get updates every year (work­ing on more) and she is thriv­ing in their care! God did so much for so many peo­­ple through all of it. I’m just a lit­­tle piece in this huge beau­ti­­ful puz­­zle, that only makes sense look­ing back after­ward. I never planned my life to be this way, but it was never my life to begin with.  And now that hap­pened, I wouldn’t want it to be any other way. I got to see life from a view most peo­­ple never get to. I never felt love like it before. It’s hard to even describe, but I loved her before I ever held her. I wish I could of pro­­vided all that she deserved in life, but that wasn’t in God’s plan. She needed a father & a mother (plus a big bro 2 pro­­tect her). And God had them picked long ago. It was the most painful day of my life, and the most joy­­ful too, when I gave my daugh­­ter to her mom & dad. (Or as I say, gave her the gift of them) They had been pray­ing for her since day one! If not for this fam­ily & God’s assur­ance, I doubt I would of gone through. Usu­ally adop­­tions take place 4 days after birth (in Texas) but because of legal issues w father sig­­na­­ture, I GOT A WHOLE 31 DAYS with her! These were the best days of my life! Every­one was wor­ried I would get too attached, and of course I did! But I wanted to love on her as much as I could, while I could. I think I proved to agency that a birth mom can get attached & still go through with the adop­­tion. We do it because we love them, not because we “weren’t attached yet.” But I miss her more than any­thing now! It will be a long long 17 year wait to hope­­fully see her and hold her again. I didn’t ever think it could (or any­thing could) hurt this bad. It’s like loos­ing or “giv­ing away” a piece of me big­ger than I knew I had.
I learned how pre­­cious life is & how lucky we are to be given it. Every­thing I do or receive in life is because of His Grace, I’m just thank­­ful to of lived this long…and each new day is a gift I didn’t deserve.
There were more crazy twists & turns dur­ing it all. I got eclam­pe­sia & had emer­­gency nat­ural labor(some advil) She had a false alarm ill­­ness, hos­pi­­tal on the 15th day. I sup­­pressed rape & preg­­nancy until the 7th month! I lived w/ 30 preg­­nant women in dorms & lot of other fun stuff that all con­nected together in the end. Now I’m involved in a min­istry to birth moth­­ers.

My fulll story is here:  http://www.thestoryofagirl.com/about-me/

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Genesis 50:20

“For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us.”

Getting the word out early for next year!

Explanation of Birthmother’s day:

Birthmother’s day is a day to celebrate and honor our birthmotherhood. Its a day to reflect on the choice we made and the life we gave. Its a day to recognize, that we are good mothers who made the ultimate sacrifice for our children.

History on Birthmother’s Day:

Birthmother’s Day is celebrated the Saturday before Mother’s Day. It originated in 1990 by a group of birthmothers in Seattle, Washington. Most birthmothers will agree that Mother’s Day is a very painful holiday and these women wanted to create something that would honor their birthmotherhood.

Celebrating Birthmom’s Day:

Birthmother’s Day unites birthmoms. A lot of agencies and organizations are hosting birthmother’s day events and it has become more recognized by the adoption community as a day of remembrance for birthmothers. Check with agencies, support groups, and adoption related organizations in your area to see if they might be hosting a Birthmom’s Day event. If not, then celebrate on your own. Treat yourself to a special dinner or buy yourself a rose - something to celebrate your birthmotherhood!