Mar 6, 2010
We are oficially a non profit that can be listed on guidestar, therefore on everything!It's been a long wait!
Finally we are a legit 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization:
http://www2.guidestar.org/organizations/ 26-4550204/birth-mom-missions.aspx
Now all donations to this facebook cause will go directly to the mission! Now we can really get to work! Our main website (birthmomissions.com) has been updated, and also several other thing...s. Any suggestions are always welcome too. Our new toll free phone number is 1-888-4ULOVED (catchy huh?) but for the next week our temporary number is: 866-718-9756. Hopefully it's an easy enough number to remember and you can give it out the next time run into someone in need of our support. It's free and they can call 24/7 to talk to a birth mom. That's about it, just wanted to let you know we ere.
Thanks again!
I don't like sending too many cause updates (think I have only sent 3 total over the year) because I know how annoying they can be consuming your inbox! So if you want to be updated more often on where we are in the process of growing the mission, you can subscribe here: http://birthmomsupport.com/updates/embed.form.php
About
Birth Mom Missions provides a much needed (and often overlooked) service to women who have placed their child for adoption.
We offer guidance before, after and during the adoption process to all women who ask, regardless of their choices made. Much of this is done through phone conversations, emails, letters, prayers and social networking correspondence. We are dedicated to providing nonjudgmental assistance to any woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and guidance for those who choose to become birth mothers.
Birth Mothers have parted with a huge piece of themselves. Even the most independent woman will tell you that having a child changes a woman's view of herself. Placing that child is akin to letting go of a piece of yourself.
We offer local supportive groups (growing nationwide) made up of women who have been through the similar experiences. We want to provide young women in the future with the knowledge and support that we wish we had from a birth mother. Someone who knew what it was like and was unbiased. Someone to talk to us, inform us, guide us, emphasize with us, and answer all our silly questions. One goal of the mission is to someday see every pregnant woman that is considering adoption,to have at least one birth mother mentor.
The mission touches the lives of those adopted, adoptive parents, hopeful adoptive parents, pregnant woman at risk, the unborn, and other parts of society in ways yet to be seen.
Some background:
It seems that the grief which results from adoption loss more often follows a pattern which is the exact opposite of what one might expect in the case of other losses. From my research, I have made certain conclusions on the grief associated with adoption loss, based on my own experience, the experiences of the women I have encountered and the books on grief and grief counselling which I have read. It became obvious to me that the common models of grief counselling would not work with mothers who had lost children through adoption. I concluded that the grief resulting from the loss of a child through adoption was fundamentally different from other types of grief. I explored grief associated with abortion, with stillbirth and neo-natal death and with loss of custody. Although there were some similarities, it seemed that adoption grief was unique.
This disenfranchised grief is when the grief is connected with a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, publicly mourned or socially supported. In many cases of disenfranchised grief, the relationship is not recognised, the loss is not recognised or the griever is not recognized. The loss of a child through adoption is usually a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, which is why mothers often suffer in silence...people who have experienced any type of loss often feel anger, guilt, sadness, depression, hopelessness and numbness and that in cases of disenfranchised grief, these feelings can persist for a very long time. The lack of recognition of their grief often results in them holding on to it more tenaciously than they might otherwise have done.
The 3 main goals within Birth Mom Missions are:
1. Support & Advice for Women pre-and post adoption.
2. Birth Mom's for Life:
Every year approximately 1.3 million single women become unexpectedly pregnant. Sadly, less than two percent choose the loving option of adoption, while two million couples eagerly wait to adopt children. The abortion rate continues to rise. Each day, women wake up in our community believing abortion is the only realistic solution to an unplanned pregnancy.
3. Adoption Celebration, Advocacy & Reform
Donations/Support:
We would appreciate if you would help us spread the word by joining or telling someone about BirthMomMissions.Com. You can becoming a fan of our facebook page.http://facebook.com/birthmommissions
Our website has more info on what we are all about: http://birthmommissions.com
We offer guidance before, after and during the adoption process to all women who ask, regardless of their choices made. Much of this is done through phone conversations, emails, letters, prayers and social networking correspondence. We are dedicated to providing nonjudgmental assistance to any woman facing an unplanned pregnancy and guidance for those who choose to become birth mothers.
Birth Mothers have parted with a huge piece of themselves. Even the most independent woman will tell you that having a child changes a woman's view of herself. Placing that child is akin to letting go of a piece of yourself.
We offer local supportive groups (growing nationwide) made up of women who have been through the similar experiences. We want to provide young women in the future with the knowledge and support that we wish we had from a birth mother. Someone who knew what it was like and was unbiased. Someone to talk to us, inform us, guide us, emphasize with us, and answer all our silly questions. One goal of the mission is to someday see every pregnant woman that is considering adoption,to have at least one birth mother mentor.
The mission touches the lives of those adopted, adoptive parents, hopeful adoptive parents, pregnant woman at risk, the unborn, and other parts of society in ways yet to be seen.
Some background:
It seems that the grief which results from adoption loss more often follows a pattern which is the exact opposite of what one might expect in the case of other losses. From my research, I have made certain conclusions on the grief associated with adoption loss, based on my own experience, the experiences of the women I have encountered and the books on grief and grief counselling which I have read. It became obvious to me that the common models of grief counselling would not work with mothers who had lost children through adoption. I concluded that the grief resulting from the loss of a child through adoption was fundamentally different from other types of grief. I explored grief associated with abortion, with stillbirth and neo-natal death and with loss of custody. Although there were some similarities, it seemed that adoption grief was unique.
This disenfranchised grief is when the grief is connected with a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, publicly mourned or socially supported. In many cases of disenfranchised grief, the relationship is not recognised, the loss is not recognised or the griever is not recognized. The loss of a child through adoption is usually a loss which cannot be openly acknowledged, which is why mothers often suffer in silence...people who have experienced any type of loss often feel anger, guilt, sadness, depression, hopelessness and numbness and that in cases of disenfranchised grief, these feelings can persist for a very long time. The lack of recognition of their grief often results in them holding on to it more tenaciously than they might otherwise have done.
The 3 main goals within Birth Mom Missions are:
1. Support & Advice for Women pre-and post adoption.
2. Birth Mom's for Life:
Every year approximately 1.3 million single women become unexpectedly pregnant. Sadly, less than two percent choose the loving option of adoption, while two million couples eagerly wait to adopt children. The abortion rate continues to rise. Each day, women wake up in our community believing abortion is the only realistic solution to an unplanned pregnancy.
3. Adoption Celebration, Advocacy & Reform
Donations/Support:
We would appreciate if you would help us spread the word by joining or telling someone about BirthMomMissions.Com. You can becoming a fan of our facebook page.http://facebook.com/birthmommissions
Our website has more info on what we are all about: http://birthmommissions.com
Donations Go To…
Birth Mom Missions
A 501(c)(3) nonprofit
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A 501(c)(3) nonprofit
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February 10th
Have some bad news, don't want to even mention cause we would be up all night talking about it. I'm gonna go to bed. can u just pray or think of all the birthmoms tonight..Cause it's not me the bad news hit this time/ Seems like every day we have better …
February 10th
Yo Parents of my kid, I wouldn't mind an update or two sometime soon. Kindddaaa been a whileAdoption day. I bought her osmany clother since we had a month of bliss together.a6.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net
February 1st
A Birth Mom Being realPost adoption talking. Basically if I had seen stuuff like this or been able to just talk to ONE birthmother, my adoption would have been OK, I think. I just didn't know what was going on, what to ask for, I was scared , etc.. Thats …
February 1st
Hey everybody, I just realized it's our 2 year Anniversary! We were given the "official" non profit status in Jan of 2010! Wow that went fast! Pray I turned in the IRS forms right and we stay this way!!!
February 1st
http://youtu.be/BCihQNnrjSIA Birth Mom being realwww.youtube.comfor the future birth moms so they can know what NOT to do. Just reading over my journal and documenting like always how things are going, grieving wise.. (li...
February 1st
Thinking about my daughter (surprise, surprise) Almost a year since I've received any lind of update. She is almost 4 now. Had some issues with the 501 c3 Status, maintaining it, but finally got it figured out. I guess some hire attorneys to do it for the…
January 24th
Hello to all of you today! Not sure if you have heard of this man, but I urge you to click on this link to see an interview he did regarding a song he wrote about his birth mother. What he says, and his actions during the interview will surely make every …
January 23rd
Life Post Adoption For just a second, put on the shoes of a birth parent. Imagine parting with your child. Imagine believing that it is your only option. Imagine believing that it is right. It still hurts, doesn't it...
January 23rd
For just a second, put on the shoes of a birth parent. Imagine parting with your child. Imagine believing that it is your only option. Imagine believing that it is right. It still hurts, doesn't it? Now that you've got that feeling down, imagine someone h…
January 19th
And they wonder if we ever think of them!!! I dont have contact but I have my 7 pics from AP's.... you better believe Im using those 7 for everything I can.. lolPics Used in StoriesThis is what we do with your pictures... See how important updates are to…
January 19th
Still no word back from my daughter's AP's. Or is it the agency nto responding? I'll never know like most in adoptions till far to late. Remember girls to discuss your plan with a bmom and call if you want so you don't get screwed like me. I mean mines st…
January 19th
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10150498243069212Our Never ending Poem/Story Play a little Game Ladies! I will start the line of a poem,One starts it with another line - max 2( so we can do more than once And Just Birth Moms firstthen Ap's post…
January 14th
Welcome to Birth Mom MissionLittle introduction for the website at http://birthmommission.com/ Tell me what u think... bad? ok?
January 13th
This book moved me beyond words. I found out that most birth mothers who read this are touched in the same way. I highly recommend this book to everyone in the adoption triad. Well worth your time. Also great to read all the participants thoughts. Check o…
January 12th
The healing process can be long and difficult. Hopefully, there are those that support you and have helped along the way. Who was instrumental in helping you heal after placement?
December 27th
This, of course, is the season for giving. Just for kicks, tell us what was the best gift that you gave to someone this year?
December 25th
Hope everyone had a wonderful Holiday today. May your heart be light and may peace be with you this Christmas!
December 19th
Welcome to Birth Mom MissionLittle introduction for the website at http://birthmommission.com/ Tell me what u think... bad? ok?
December 13th
Got some updates a coming! I'm writing this in a a note cause it's to long too post here. This is another picture from the Honor for Life Awards thing last month. The girl next to me was also raped. (Well duh, we were at the "raped table" JK, but we kinda…
December 13th
First question to ask you... via Birtht Mom: Hello Friends! I know some of you, MANY of you have sent me private messages in the past on facebook, opening your heart and soul and sharing your own stuggles. I love that y'all trust me and do that it makes m…
December 13th
A note about the impossibility of being a mother with no child. Lately, there have been more and more women, having not so great experiences with the AP's. Its hard I know, to get cause on her they are all great. But if they didnt care, they wouldn't be h…
November 25th
A test run....Welcome to Birth Mom MissionLittle introduction for the website at http://birthmommission.com/ Tell me what u think... bad? ok?
November 18th
Practicing my "speech" for this weekend. Can't believe already Nov. 20th! Of course I'm going first with last name B! No, that shouldn't be weird at all...LOL...to be the first girl to tell audience about a rape (hate the word) story.. I want another wor…
November 18th
Nothing Special. Just good to say it out loud.Miss u 2Miss u
October 31st
http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-snc4/70923_1771374356_6198563_q.jpgBirthMom AdoptionJust got back on facebook after weeks! Checking messages :) The 13th is the bday me and my daughter share! So every 13th of the month I celebrate her... (Oh, I fou…
October 23rd
If they only knew how happy the updates made me? I thought maybe more, but they know I live for them and still just once a year! It's torture with 5 months still to go... (at least this might help a BM out there somewhere, just keep spreading the message …
